Why Heartbreak, Responsibility, and Authentic Expression Matter to Dusan Velickovic, Musician
1 month ago
Singer, songwriter, and guitarist dusan opens up about the deeply personal story behind his new song "The Diary" — how discovering his ex-wife's diary reshaped his understanding of their relationship and the nature of blame after a breakup. He shares powerful thoughts on the impact of divorce on children, the value of traditional approaches to working through conflict, and why authentic songwriting beats anything AI could ever produce.
[00:13] Introduction to dusan and his new song "The Diary"
[00:32] What matters most to dusan right now — processing heartbreak and understanding the real story behind a relationship's end
[02:15] The story of discovering his ex-wife's diary and how two people can live together for years while living entirely different stories
[04:21] Using art and songwriting to work through emotional pain and personal experience
[06:14] How divorce impacts children — the powerful lyric about splitting a child in two and why kids matter most
[09:04] Matters.com Speed Round: AI in Music, Rice Cakes, Divorce, Coffee, Chocolate, FIFA World Cup, Lyrics and Songwriting
You can find dusan at:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dusan-velickovic-90436aa1/
https://www.instagram.com/_vdusan/
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Whys (4)
Dusan says Chocolate matters a lot — it "could boost my concentration" when studying as a child, or was at least a good excuse to get sweets from his mother.
Does CHOCOLATE matter to you?
Dusan says Coffee matters a lot — being "from the Balkans close to Turkey," he drinks it the traditional Turkish way, which he describes as strong and worth trying.
Does COFFEE matter to you?
Dusan says Artificial intelligence in music "not matters" — it's "making you lazy" by generating music from your ideas instead of pushing you to be genuinely creative.
Does ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE IN M... matter to you?
Dusan knows firsthand that Divorce matters — it "can change your life drastically," affecting not just you but your child and everyone around you.
Does DIVORCE matter to you?
Takeaways (8) View 11 quotes
Not everything was my fault — I just needed enough time to see that clearly.
Two people can live together for decades and be living completely different stories.
Going through a major split turns you into your own psychologist — you have no choice.
Parents who separate toss the child back and forth like a ball — that needs to stop.
The child is the one who can't care for themselves yet — that makes them the priority.
AI can help with music, but leaning on it too much just makes you lazy.
Writing your own lyrics and singing them is how you say something real without raising your voice.
After a relationship ends, you eventually see what was really going on the whole time.
Quotes (11)
“after the relationship ends and after the people go through some breakup, which is one of the toughest periods probably in the human's life, you, after some time passes, you could realize the reality of what was going on and what was happening actually in the background of this, the whole history of the whole relationship.”
“when you are doing everything correctly and there's something ended, in this case, it's a relationship, you over the time you start understanding that maybe was not everything your fault as you've been told to.”
“how much the people can live together and go along together for years, even decades, but living a different story. And this you find in the notes or how it's called diary.”
“when you end one one period, huge period of your life, you are becoming the psychologist, the neurologist. You are becoming everything.”
“there is a sentence how you split the lives in sentence, how you split the child in two. Because people do not understand. So a lot of people thinks, I'm gonna get the the child. The child is gonna be fine with me and this and this. But no. Actually, you have to share it. It's basically something which you will be always here, and they're with you. Your parents, you want it or you want it or not, but you are a parent. And you need to share it. If you're together, you don't share it. You're actually throwing it to each other like a ball.”
“the child is the thing which matters the most. Like, even you, of course, you matter. Your wife matter. She matters to her. But someone who who doesn't know how to care about themselves now should be matters to you the most.”
“it's making you creative in a way which you wouldn't like to be. It can help you. For example, there are some platforms now where you now where you can upload some of your ideas and then then make music for you, but it's just probably getting making you lazy.”
“Yes. Matters a lot. Because it can change your life drastically. Trust me on this one.”
“I'm from the Balkans close to the Turkey, so coffee matters a lot.”
“the chocolate matters a lot. And because when I was studying, it actually could boost my my concentration of what I was learning when I was younger.”
“it matters so much for me because you can express anything which is on your soul and to be heard by not raising your voice. Not only when you are singing some higher notes, obviously, but other than that, you can express everything what what is in your heart, on on your soul. You can throw these rocks away from you and just by singing those lyrics, but only if you wrote them, not an AI.”